TALK TUESDAY #10

Hey beloveds,

*skips the excuses for taking yet another break, love is all about action, so I need to shut it and post like I love my baby (the blog) cause I do..*  This week’s Talk Tuesday features Kauthar, a sweetheart I had the pleasure of meeting briefly last year during a video campagne for Syrian refugees by clothing brand Nesci (right off the bat that tells you something about this woman’s heart <3). I’ve been following her ever since and enjoy her take on life, style and culture. Another lady that inspires me by living her life on her own terms is miss Nella Neth, a model and social influencer who’s hustle I admire. We can all learn a lot from her strength and genuine personality. Grab your tea (hold the sugar) and enjoy!

Love & light,

Ruqia

 

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photo credit: Noonii Aghili

 

”Love is to give away as much as you can. Give your energy away, give your knowledge, your wisdom and lessons. Everything you give away, will come back to you.”

 

1. Who are you?

I am an extrovert, idealist, restless and far too enthusiastic about “bettering” the world. I am a novelty seeker; constantly scanning for new and interesting people, ideas, and possibilities. Lover of art and a good laugh. Also colourblind (lil fun fact).

2. What is your deepest intention?

Look, our intentions create our reality. I always set my intentions. With that being said, my deepest intention is to inspire the people of this world to find their strength, develop it use it to make (their) world a better place. Inspiration leads to belief and (self) belief leads to action…and action makes our dreams come true. So go inspire the humans of this world.

3. What is your deepest fear?

Fear that something or someone will take my freedom away. If there’s anything I value in my life, it’s my freedom. As a female from a Middle Eastern, conservative family I had to fight tirelessly to get my freedom in being the woman I want to be. Unfortunately, freedom is not a very normal thing in a lot of women’s lives. I dedicate myself to, again, inspire (wo)men to fight for their freedom. You have all the right to be the person you desire to be, even if that means that you have to walk away from your closest friends, family, or even the world. Always choose for yourself. You will regret if you don’t. Believe me!

4. What does love mean to you?

Love is to give away as much as you can. Give your energy away, give your knowledge, your wisdom and lessons. Everything you give away, will come back to you. You give good energy away, you get good energy. You give bad energy/intentions away, you get bad energy back. Now in order to give away, you have to be full of yourself. And you can only do that if you love yourself.

5. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made in your life and how have you overcome it?

Taking rejection personally. A number of people I used to be very close with, decided one day not to talk to me ever again and leave for no reason. I felt rejected and took it extremely personally. But It’s never the situation that upsets you, it’s your thoughts about it. Events happen all the time, some in our favor and some not so much. The story you give an event determines how you feel about it. What are emotions after all, they are a physical manifestation of your thoughts. Think of something that upset you recently, don’t your emotions change? Now think of something you love? Feeling better? Don’t take emotions too seriously, know they are only based on your thoughts, those thoughts are based on a story and meaning you have given something. That ultimately is based on an opinion! An accident can happen with 10 witnesses, chances are you will experience 10 different points of view. Your point of view is never from where you are standing, but from where you are thinking. The beauty is, that we control the meaning we give things. Positive or negative it’s a choice, the difference is that the people who choose the positive use the situation to their favour. Those who choose the negative are robbed of their power.

 

6. What accomplishment in your life are you most proud of?

Learning Dutch! When I came to the Netherlands as a refugee, me and my sister were the only two children who could speak English back then (at our tiny school). So they sent us to an American elementary school. Mind you, I just had turned 9 years old then. Three years later, the government didn’t want to pay our fees, so we had to go back to a Dutch public school. My sister learned the language very quickly. Me, on the other hand, had to start from the bottom. I read the Dutch version of “Charlie and the chocolate factory” from cover to cover, six times in a row because my mum couldn’t afford to buy new books. A refugee family of three people was allowed to spend only 50 euros per week, back then. There was no library in our little town either. During recess I would stay in my classroom to read some Dutch books. On my 12th birthday my teacher gave me twelve Dutch novels and convinced me that if I learned the Dutch language, we would get our passports. I was the happiest kid in the world. On my 13th birthday we got a letter that said we had “earned” our Dutch passports. On that day I felt like I had conquered the world because I could speak, read and write DUTCH! Therefor, speaking Dutch is my biggest accomplishment in my life (so far). Professional wise; recently my Persian rug collection for the European living room got accepted into the Cascais Shopping Mall (in Portugal), ready for sale. For my Portuguese folks: You can now shop my Persian carpets at the Cascais Shopping Mall. Our new website is coming soon, so stay tuned.

7. How would your best friend describe you?

Probably as someone who cares more about her hair and nails than about her life. Gives great advice, but never listens to other people’s advice. Spontaneous, assertive and LOVES Justin Trudeau. Yup, that would be it.

8. What’s the best advice you ever received?

Over prepare, then go with the flow anyway.

9. How would you like to be remembered?

Look,there are a few things I am extremely passionate about. Green living: solar panels, organic consumption/physical health, Persian carpets and helping women in need. One day I will build homes for (wo)men in need with solar panels on their roofs and a built-in garden where they can grow their own organic veggies and fruits and I will decorate their living rooms with beautiful Persian rugs. Last, but not least, I will send their children to schools where common sense and personal development is a big part of their education. Green living is the future. Persian carpets are world’s most beautiful artwork for your home, and personal development is one of the keys to progress for the next generation. I would love to be remembered as the green-Persian-rug-farmer-feminist-forward-thinker. If that even makes sense. But you get my point, right?

 

Follow this beautiful soul on her instagram.

 

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photo credit: Julia Dansarie

 

”My biggest accomplishment thus far is to be alive. My life has never been easy, so being here pushing through fire and storms is my biggest accomplishment.”

 

1. Who are you?

A young, intelligent and multi-talented girl who one day decided to promote herself unapologetically through the world of social media so she can have a positive impact among the youth from all over the world.

2. What is your deepest intention?

To positively influence people’s lives.

3.  What is your deepest fear?

To live in a world full of negativity.

4. What does love mean to you?

Love means everything to me..love is the cure for every evil and wounded souls.

5. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made in your life and how have you overcome it?

The biggest mistake..I can’t answer that because I am still learning, still growing, and still making mistakes and correcting them.

6. What accomplishment in your life are you most proud of?

My biggest accomplishment thus far is to be alive. My life has never been easy, so being here pushing through fire and storms is my biggest accomplishment.

7. How would your best friend describe you?

My bestfriend would describe me as: ‘’Yaaassss hunty slaaayyy! Show them! Cause I slay’’ something like that. But on a serious note, they would probably tell you that I am a little strict sometimes and have a low tolerance to bs and that every song is twerkable 🙂

8. What’s the best advice you ever received?

I am surrounded by grown up people. A few of my very close friends are in their 40s and up. We get along because I am an old soul and they represent a parent figure in my life since I don’t have parents. They always give me the best advices when I need to figure out something. We have long phone calls and they give me strength.

9. How would you like to be remembered?

Remember me as this unique and strong woman.

 

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Ruqia

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