What can I say it’s a man’s world (correction: it’s a white, middle-aged, man’s world) and anyone who doesn’t fit the profile will be considered different but that’s okay. Today I want you to reconsider labelling your strengths as your ”weaknesses”, being a triple threat myself (black, Muslim and a woman). Here are 3 tips to turn your so-called weaknesses into your strengths and not only survive but thrive:
- I AM NOT JOHN AND YOU AIN’T EITHER..
Though I’m very comfortable being who I am now, I have gone through a phase of doubting myself and wanting to fit the mold of what society considers succesful. Obviously, I wouldn’t go as far as changing my gender and adopting a new persona but I did try to make subtle changes, the way I would dress, talk (I speak fluent ”Job interview English/Dutch”). Accept who you are, in all your foreign, colorful, accent having glory.
- GO WHERE YOU’RE CELEBRATED, NOT JUST TOLERATED
Too many of us settle for an environment where we’re tolerated (not the same thing as accepted) and limit our own growth. We get excited about a boss that tolerates us wearing our cultural or religious attire and consider ourselves lucky. Diversity on any scale is beautiful and it needs to be celebrated.
- IDENTIFY WHAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT AND USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE
As my Dad (in my head) Seth Godin said ”You will never become a category of one if you run with the pack”. This is true when you’re trying to get a job and need to stand out (in a good way) or if you’re trying to create a career for yourself. Sooner or later you will find out that what makes you ”different” is truly what gives you an edge and helps you to stand out. Whether it’s your killer ‘fro, charming gap between your teeth (I closed mine, still regret it..) or wear clothing that isn’t considered mainstream, embrace any part of you that’s weird and beautiful.
Love & Light,